Category Archives: help

22Aug/15

Healthy Relationships Are What?

Healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships are very important to everyone I know.  Yes they are important to me too.  As some of you may know I was not in a healthy relationship in university.

Healthy relationships are more than being with your partner (boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife).  Having healthy relationships with your friends and family too.  Know that relationships are built on trust, kindness, and understanding of each other.

Let’s explore this a bit more.  How does a person grow a healthy relationship around the area of  trust.  Trust is earned, not just given.  So this would mean keeping your word, if you say you will show up at 5pm to their house, then do so.  If you do not, your friend will not trust you.  And this also goes the other way, if your friend promises you that they will be there at 5pm to your house and they do not show up, you will start to not trust their word.  Then you can start to build on this, go step by step, keep your word build the trust between you.  And also know that trust in any relationship can take years to grow, yet can be snapped away in seconds!

Kindness, is huge in any relationship.  Being kind to one another is key in any healthy relationship.  Smile at your partner, do something nice for a co-worker, call up a friend to say hi!  then to grow the heathy relationship, be open to receive kindness.  Watch what comes back to you!   And you will never know what will grow and blossom from being kind to others.  You have no idea what the person is going through.  I recently came back from the eWomenNetwork International Conference and one of the speakers Shawn Achor spoke about being happy, and something called the ‘doubler’.  Meaning send someone a letter on how you appreciate them, and then watch what comes back to you from them!

Here is his Ted Talk:

Shawn Achor

The final part of  this idea of having a healthy relationship is understanding each other.  This is possibly the most important one.  We need to understand each other!  Many miss communications come from not fully understanding one another.  Something I teach during workshops for tween and teen girls is the word SALT.  Meaning Stop, Ask, Listen, and Talk.  Want more information on this message me here.

What will you do to create a healthy relationship with those around you.  Not just your intimate partner.

 

 

 

13Jun/15

Persistence Pays

persistence pays! Keep going no matter what!

Persistence, how does that relate to the topic this month of ‘get moving’?  Well, in one respect it does not.  And yet I believe it does as well.

On June 7, 2015 I had a dream come true.  And it took persistence and continual movement forward for it to come true.  The Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario  (CHEO) had their annual telethon.  And I went back to the hospital to share some hope and inspiration.  As well as gift the hospital Neonate Intensive Care Unit (NICU) $3,216.

persistence pays, giving CHEO $3,216 live on air

persistence pays, giving CHEO $3,216 live on air, CTV Ottawa

The reason why I went back to the hospital to give them money is that I was born 3 months early in 1976, and given 24hrs to live.  With persistence, movement and a team of doctors, nurses and specialists I am here today.

We had the opportunity to return to CHEO and the NICU.  My parents and I met some of the awesome nurses and doctors who now work with the tiny babies and their families at the hospital.  They have the quality of persistence to keep going to find out new ways to help the babies live and thrive.  They have also been developing new technologies to help both baby and Mum bond, and thrive.  One of the newer ideas is something called Kangaroo Care.    This is a technique that was not invented in 1976.

My Dad kept a journal of my time in the NICU.  There were entries of sadness, joy, and stress.  On occasion though there were entries in the journal that made me giggle after I read them.  One of them being that when my parents came to visit me, they noticed that I had little baby doll socks on my tiny hands. Apparently according to the doctors I was moving too much, and was taking my iv and other wires out!  I was had persistence even as a tiny baby to keep going no matter what.  And moving was a part of that!

Persistence to move forward, to keep going.

What will you do to keep moving your energy, your body and persist to overcome challenges?

If you want help to help your daughter find her own inner persistence, and strength to keep going no matter what click here!  And let us know how we here at Inch by Inch Empowerment can help YOU!

Aime Hutton in 1976

Aime Hutton in 1976

09May/15

Inch by inch yes YOU can!

inch by inch you can dream and do it!

Inch by inch I know you can reach goals and dreams.  What is something you wanted to do when younger, yet never did.  Or what was a dream you had when younger?

I’ve been noticing that as kids transition to teens, and then adults that the dreams that we had a child, go away.  A lot of the time how this appears to happen is school and life.  Children are told as they grow that sometimes there dreams are silly, that the will never get to be the NHL hockey star, or the next Katy Perry.  A lot of the time kids are told to get back to reality, and get their heads out of the clouds.  Especially as they grow, and hit high school.  Inch by inch their dreams are broken apart.  Sometimes by those who love them the most.

Speaking of myself, I know when I was a young girl, I wanted to dance on stage doing ballet.  It was a dream I had.  A loved one told me that the dream of dancing on stage can not continue as I did not look like a dancer.

last time dancing ballet on stage

last time dancing ballet on stage

It’s time to awaken your dreams again!  How are you going to inch by inch do that?  Think of something you wanted to do as a child, and write that down on paper.  Then create ways that you can move towards that goal or dream.  Small steps, or as I like to say inch by inch you can get there.

There is a song that always reminds me to dream.  My friend Annie sent me the video and I want to encourage you to continue to dream.  Inch by inch you can dream again!

Would you love to help your daughter awaken her dreams again?  It can be done!  Click here for your tween daughter and click here for your teenage daughter!

27Apr/15

Happy + Helping = Great!

Happy + Helping = Great!

Happy + Helping = Great!  Yes I said it!

What did you do this month to help others?  What was on your list of what made you happy?  Have you made your list?  Do you need to go back and make your list of what makes you happy?

When you have created you list, go back and see how you can be a happy helper in your community and then stretch and how can you help others around the world.

Here is a video with Aime sharing he recap of this month!

For more information on how you can help in your community search here for all your needs!  For Calgary specifically, click here.

For more information on how Aime can help YOU and your daughter, click here!

19Apr/15

The World Can Be Helped Too

World and helping go hand in hand.

The world is a big place.  The world needs our help.  This week let’s talk about how we can help on a bigger scale.  How can the world be helped.

Remember how last week I asked you what makes you happy, or what are things you like to do?  Go back to that list.  Now, perhaps you like sports.  Did you know that there is a world wide volunteer organization that helps kids play sports.  It’s called Right To Play.  Right To Play helps countries that may not have resources or funds to gain access to sports equipment so they can play soccer, or basket ball.

Some of the world wide volunteer organizations that I have found in a google search have been started by kids!  So please do not think that just because your children are 9 or 11 that they are not able to help on a bigger scale.  They can, and have.  This website has a a list of organizations that are all about volunteering, that have been started by kids!

Girls helping in a kitchen volunteering.

Thinking back to when I was in school, I volunteered in my community yes, and when within Girl Guides, we did projects that sent things to other countries around the world.  To help other girls play, or just be a kid.  We thought it was a fun thing to do, it was like having a pen pal around the world.

Speaking of pen pals, I had one for a long time, in England.  It was fun to write to her and see what was happening in her part of the world.

Being a happy helper around the world can bring so much joy to your daughters.  If you want to expand and let your daughter learn about helping others in the community and the world then consider signing her up for our programs!  Check out the tween program here.  Or the teen program here.

 

11Apr/15

Helping in the Community

Giving back to the community, helping or volunteering is something that I have always enjoyed doing.  And YES!  I know you can too.

Make a list of what you like to do that makes you happy, and then go out and find places in your community that are looking for volunteers for the community.

Example, if you like sports, how can you volunteer and be a happy helper at an event in your community.  I’m thinking about tennis for an idea.  If you play tennis and enjoy it.  What about volunteering at a competition as a ball runner?

Do a search on the internet for your community and volunteer opportunities for you.  There are ways you can look for your own unique categories, even by youth/adult.

Check out this video below of my vlog for the week with other ideas on how you can help in your own community!  Yes you can!  I believe in YOU!

 

06Apr/15

April = How will you help?

How will you help?

How will you help?

So now it is April!  Wow!  Got a question for you, what do you think of when you hear the word ‘help’?  Also…….where did the first three months of the year go?  Have you seen some changes in yourself?  How are you choosing to be brave, to be yourself?  For April we turn and focus on others, how will you help others.

We touch on helping others in our community, and on a global scale.  I will share some places where I have helped in person, here in Calgary, and then getting to stretch.  Thinking on where you can help on a larger scale.

Yes I’m talking about helping on a global level.  You can do it, it may take some imagination.  Helping others on all levels take some thinking outside the box sometimes.

There one word that I’m suggesting that we will dive into more next week, and that is the word happy.

Many kids volunteer and help others all over their community, it can be big or small.  My parents had me volunteering and helping others in many ways even when I was young, still in elementary school.  It felt good to help others.

There are ways people can help that are not money related either.  We’ll discover those ways as well this month.

Help others world wide!

Help others world wide!

 

I know you may be thinking you are small.  Yet everyone helping bit by bit can bring together many small things into one big awesome thing that will help many.

Want to learn how you and your daughter can learn about this topic more?  Click here to find out more.  To start your journey of helping and you live in Calgary check this website out  Volunteer Calgary