Category Archives: empowerment

24Feb/15

Bold Topic Summary

How will you be bold in your life?

How will you live in your life?

So let’s look back at what we talked about this month.  All about being bold.  Remember that being bold is a choice, it is about being different, and being yourself.

I chose to be different by doing the one video for you in my p.j.’s.  I also make choices each day on how much I want to be seen in the world.  There are times that I just want to crawl in my bed and hide.

Watch this video summary, and then comment below on how you are going to live in your world starting today.  Why not today?  The world is waiting for you to show up and be seen today!  Even if that looks like you speaking your mind, wearing a sparkly top, or changing the way you walk to school.

I believe in YOU!

 

14Feb/15

To be bold is a choice

Being bold is a choice.  I chose to be bold most of the time.  Sometimes I choose to be quiet, and introspective on myself.  Some days I wear my sweatshirt and a ball cap.  Blending in with others.  And yes there are even days when I do not want to be seen, I want to hide in my blankets and shut out the world.

To be fully me is to accept all emotions and actions of myself.

We all go through emotions on a daily basis.  Some times many in the first half of the day.  You are allowed to feel all your emotions, all your quirks, for this is what makes you YOU!

Choose to be bold, what ever that level is for you!

Being bold is a choice, on how much you wish to express yourself.  When I am working during the day at my day job, I do not wear the feathers in my hair that often.  I am still being me though.

Think about how your emotions and level of ‘boldness’ how you are each day.  Start a journal or check list to track how bold you are in the day, and post below how your tracking is going.  Celebrate each level.

Where are your emotions?

Here’s an idea do a 1 – 10 boldness ranking, circle the number that suites you today, and then write a sentence under on how/why you felt that way.  Notice what has been going on in your world, and in your environment.  Notice how you are feeling too.  If not notice yourself being under 3 for a few days in a row then think what is going on, and how can you change this to a 5 or 6.  Remember change takes time, and being fully 10 bold in your life takes work.  As I said there are times that I just want to hide away under my blankets.

I believe in YOU!  I know you can do it!

25Jan/15

Something New?

Starting today, the blogs you see and read on Inch by Inch Empowerment will be switching between written blogs and video blogs.  Also each month is a different theme.  January’s theme is Be Brave!  Each week on Sundays most often will be a blog in written or video form.

Today is the first video blog.  All about the theme of being brave, I ask you what is something you’ve done for the first time that is new for you?  I share with you something that I’ve done new for the first time and would love to hear what you have done recently for the first time in the comments below!

Join in the discussion in the comments, share, and let’s have a conversation!

 

17Dec/14

Dear Principal

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Tonight I wrote a letter to my old public elementary school where I attended.  I wanted to share it here as well to drum up some conversation around labeling kids with codes of special needs in schools.

My letter is open and raw.  Sharing what I experienced.  I know that things have changed in schools, yet a lot can still be done for inclusion of all students. As well as bullying is taken a lot more seriously today, than it was in the 80’s.  I took out the principal’s name for this blog and addressed just ‘principal’.  As well as I shortened my elementary school and secondary schools to just initials.

Dear: Principal,

How many of your students are coded with special needs in your school?  What I know to be true is that when I went to school at VWPS the idea of coding students was just coming into use.  Why do I know this?  Let me introduce myself.  My name is Aime Hutton, and I graduated grade 8 in June, 1991 from VWPS.

While going to school I struggled with the core subjects in math, reading, spelling, and comprehension.  I had many academic tests done in grade three to help understand what was going on with me.  It was deemed by the test results and the school system that I was diagnosed as a slow learner, and had border line learning disabilities/challenges.  I was told I would never write well, always be the “C” student never the “A” student.  My parents had a meeting after these test results came to light with the school principal, resource teacher, and the grade three teachers.  The school suggested having me in the special education program to continue my schooling at VWPS.  My parents were to have none of this.  They fought the suggestion from the school.  What was agreed upon was that I was held back a year in grade 3 to re-do it again.  I also had extra help in the class from the teachers, and the teacher’s assistant.

There were many nights I can remember sitting at the kitchen table in tears with spelling and math homework.  My brain just could not get the concepts.  Yet I kept at it, and completed my homework each night.  My parents and I were elated when I got a 70% or higher on any tests, or even just a passing mark.

When I was held back a year to re-do grade three, is when the bullying started.  Back then we called it teasing or ‘picking on’ someone.  However being flung around the girls change room in grade 7 by my bra strap and flung into the cubby’s is more than just teasing or ‘picking on’ someone.  I was teased and bullied from grades three to eight.  On top of the academic struggles I had each night, I would come home upset from the teasing and bullying.  My parents did what they could, and encouraged me to keep going each day, and go to school.  At the grade eight graduation I was presented with the Most Improved Student Award.  I did it without going into the special education program.

I went onto DHS for grade nine, and then PRSS (when it opened in September 1992) for the remaining years of high school.  Then completing my OAC’s (Grade 13) and being accepted to Lakehead University in Thunder Bay, Ontario where I graduated with a BA in Sociology.

I lived with the thoughts of ‘not good enough’ to be the “A” student throughout my schooling and into adulthood.

Why did I just share this personal information with you?  It is my intention that you and your teachers think about coding your students.  As well as help your students who are being bullied.  I am aware of different programs and lectures now about bullying which is a help and a start.  Yet more can be done in regards to self-esteem/confidence.

Speaking of self-confidence, I have broken the mental and emotional block about being that “C” student.  I have now been published in 2 international bestselling book anthologies.  Also what you find in this package to you is a book that I compiled in August 2014.  I am an international bestselling compiler.  I have blown that idea of not writing well as told to me in elementary school out of the water.

Enjoy the book “Inch by Inch ~ Growing in Life” as my gift to you, and your staff.  If others wish to purchase the book it is available on Amazon.com.  The book has 30 stories of children overcoming adversity under the age of 12.

I also now am an Empowerment Leader, working with girls on self-esteem/confidence, and self-acceptance.  Which I believe can help curb and stop bullying.  Children bully a lot of the time because they are not happy with themselves, and bully someone because it makes them feel better.  As well as I am a Transformational Speaker sharing my story of resiliency, to empower audiences to never give up, to keep going no matter what.  Bullying and academic struggles were not my first time being resilient.  As you will read in my book, I am a miracle baby, with being born in 1976, at 26 weeks gestation, my birth weight was 1 pound 12 ounces, I was given 24hrs to live.

Offering hope to everyone that it does get better, that they can overcome any challenge they face.

I look forward to hearing from you, to help empower your students and staff alike.

 

Sincerely,

Aime Hutton

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13Dec/14

2014 Coming to a Close

Wow!  What a year 2014 has been!  What did you experience?  What did you get to celebrate?  What did you learn?  Who did you connect with?  Did you lose anyone close to you this year?

I know that many things were celebrated, experienced this year for me.

I also know that I connected with some amazing people from all over the world, and also unfortunately experienced 4 loses of friends/family this year too.

Have you started to plan and think of 2015 yet?  I have!  I want to share with you some of the goals and intentions I have set for myself:

  • To take my eBook I wrote last year “The Hidden Jewels to Being a Wonder Girl” and transforming it into a print book, and perhaps also figuring out how to make it an audio book.  You can find out information in the Books section of the website.
  • The intention has been also set to have planned a Mum/Daughter retreat to the magical land of Ireland!
  • As many of you know this goal was set on Oct. 7 that I raise $3000 for the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario in Ottawa Canada.  The same hospital that saved my life.
  • To speak to organizations/agencies sharing my story of a true miracle.
  • To have my international best selling book “Inch by Inch – Growing in Life” be in gift shops in hospitals across Canada.
  • To facilitate more live workshops for tween and teen girls on a variety of subjects/topics.

 

What about you?  What are your goals/intentions/wishes for 2015 for you?

Would love to hear below!

07Sep/14

Teeth chattering and knees knocking

What is it about new experiences that make you excited?  Nervous?  Dare I say even fearful?  Think back to a time where you were to embark on a new experience.  How did you feel?  What was it that you got you excited?  Were you short of breath?  Were your hands sweaty?  Did you follow through with the new experience, or did you back out last second?

I want you to picture this…..imagine it is 2011 and you are sitting at your computer.  The sun is shining through the screen window on a crisp winter morning.  Snow has freshly fallen and there’s a twinkle on the snow.  You open your e-mail and you see a message from your dance coach.  She explains that she doesn’t want you to be a part of the performance troop any more.  You are devastated, you had been with the company for three years.

However, when all seems lost you hear of an event happening the first day when your classes were supposed to begin again.  You attend this new event.  Knees knocking and teeth chattering you stand up to speak.  Feeling like a deer in the headlights you stammer out your name and a quick sentence of empowering women through dance.

It’s an event that will change your life for the better.  It’s a group of women who are all in business for themselves!  After you sit down a warm hand comes on your shoulder from a friend who says “Good job.  There’s someone I want you to meet.”

This was my new and exciting experience I was embarking on.  I took another breath and followed my friend who had grabbed my arm and lead me over to a short woman who had a big teethy smile like me, yet she had a cowboy hat on her head with her black wavy hair coming out from under it.

This woman shook my hand and said “Hi Aime, I know who you are.  I’ve been watching you.”  I am pretty sure my eyes went as big as saucers and a tear ran down my cheek because she quickly said “Oh!  No!  Not ‘that’ kind of watching you.  Come to my meeting in two days.  I want to help you.  And I believe the women there will want to help you too.”

Two days later I was at her meeting.  I paid the entry fee at the door and went and put down my purse at a table.  The woman with the cowboy hat saw me and came over to me almost at a run even.  She embraces me in a huge hug and welcomes me.  She then says “I want to help you.  I want to help you grow and glow.”  Tears start streaming down my cheeks.  I have never had any one tell me that before.  She hugs me again and says “Aime, just smile that awesome smile I know you have, and everything will be just fine.”

This was my first introduction to eWomen Network and to Jo Dibblee.  I joined eWomen Network that month with the extra money I made from house sitting.  I joined because of Jo.

I went into this new experience with a whole lot of nervousness and even fear.  Yet the women (and men) of eWomen Network have embraced me, and want to see me climb higher and are right there cheering me on.  Even though Jo Dibblee has passed the torch to leading our chapter I know she is only a message away.

So I invite you to keep truing new things.  New experiences.  Your guides and femtors/mentors will appear.  If I did it.  I know you can too.  What new experience will you dive into next?

 

 

29Aug/14

“Let me be brave!”

Earlier this month I went to Dallas for eWomen Network International Conference.  The speakers were amazing, and the connections I made were fantastic.

One of the speakers Sean Smith spoke about attitude, and the masks/coats we all wear after something happens that hurts our hearts.  The one thing that I took away from his talk was about not being afraid to do something.  So many people want to do something, yet are afraid of doing that thing.  Perhaps something happened to them in their past like Sean Smith talked about, being teased, hurt, death in the family.  Yet time and time again we can rise, and take off that coat and open our hearts again.

As for me, I at one point wore many coats/masks.  I didn’t want to get hurt again by others.  I stayed quiet, didn’t rock the boat, or dance to the beat of my own drum.  Server verbal bullying for 6 years by my peers in school, on top of being told that I would never write well by my teachers in grade school was a hard one to swallow. Below, it’s me in Grade 8, dancing the lead in the ballet.

Me Grade 8, bullying was crazy.

 

When was the last time you did something that scared you?  When was the last time you did something for the first time.

I am reminded of the quote from the Special Olympics:  “Let me win.  Yet if I do not win, let me be brave in the attempt.”  The Special Olympics are for adults who live with a developmental disability.  During my day job, I work with adults who live with developmental disabilities.  A few of them participate in the Special Olympics.  They win every day at life.  They keep going no matter what.  Many times they are my inspiration to keep going in my own life.  They are willing to do their best, to try new things, to make new friends, to be themselves.

-Let me win.  Yet if I don't win, let me

 

How are you being brave?  You deserve to live and be brave in your life.  How am I being brave you maybe wondering?  Well by living, by stepping outside my box, and compiling a book about children overcoming adversity.  Allowing myself to be seen, and heard by a global audience.  I’ll admit it, it is scary at times.  Yet I keep going inch by inch, I will get to my goals and dreams.

 

04Apr/14

Taking Teamwork!

What a crazy couple of weeks it’s been in the land of Inch by Inch Empowerment.  I had a phone call with the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario to see if the book project I’m working on could have part of it’s proceeds be donated to CHEO even as being specific to have the funds go to the NICU.  Well they said YES!  Check out this video with my reaction:

Then this week just a couple of days ago actually I was approached by the hospital to be one of their featured stories for their 40th Anniversary.  CHEO is celebrating 40 years of being in the community of Ottawa helping thousands of children and families on a daily basis. I am 1 of 40 stories that are going to be featured.  The stories are sent out weekly leading up to May 17.  The stories that I’ve read so far have been heartbreaking, and uplifting all at the same time.  Each story is sent to all staff at CHEO, as well as being posted on their website.  Check here for the stories so far!

According to the “Baby Center”  7% of babies born in Canada are premature, with 1.5% being born before 32 weeks, and 0.4% are born before 28 weeks.  This is why CHEO is so interested in my story.  I am in that 0.4%.  Back in 1976 it was very likely that babies born before 28 weeks would not live.  I was born 3 months early, with a birth weight of 1 pound 12 ounces.  I was given a 24hr chance at life.  The doctor thought I wouldn’t live past the 24hr mark.

When my Dad sent me my ‘birth journal’ that he kept, it was emotional to read.  So many ‘critical close calls’ after being born took place.  On IV’s, off IV’s, on oxygen, off oxygen, breathing, and not breathing.  There was something else though that caught my eye.  It was that there was a huge team working to save my life.  There were about 4 different doctors and a huge amount of nurses as well.  I even had a neonateologist while in the NICU.

I am reminded of the eWomen Network motto of “Taking teamwork to make the dream work.”  The doctors and nurses were working as a team to make the dream of saving my life come true.  And it worked.  I am very grateful to the entire team (including my parents) who saved my life, so I could be here today to be of service to women and girls all over the world.

Inch by Inch Cover Photo

If you have a story to share about a child you know that has overcome a challenge/adversity and want to be in the book project.  Action is required.  Not many spaces are left.  This book will reach around the world, and be a source of hope and inspiration to families who have little ones going through their own crisis.  Think about what you would say if you had the opportunity.

All the information can be found here.

23Mar/14

Welcome!

Welcome to the new home of Inch by Inch Empowerment.  In this blog will be sparks of inspiration for you the reader, thoughts about different subjects around the area of empowerment for you.  As well as some information on a topic that is dear to my heart.  Dating violence and healthy relationships.

Quick messages sometimes with a video to encourage you to have a dance break.

Thanks for joining me here!

Till next time keep putting one foot in front of the other, believe in yourself, and let others help you!!

Aime