Category Archives: confidence

10Sep/16

Dreams are Powerful

Dreams are important!

Dreams are important!

Parents, and caring adults, do you remember dreaming as a child?  Our dreams as a child could be very different from what they are today.  Maybe dreams you had as a child were squashed, or even laughed at by friends, or family.  This blog post is all about dreams, for your daughter, or young girls in you lives.  Be open to this idea again. 

Dreaming is so important to being a Wonder Girl.  As a Wonder Girl dreams are what keep you motivated and moving forward. Many adults forget how to dream.  This is because when those adults were your age other adults told them that those dreams are foolish, and even stupid.  Those people who tell you that the dreams are foolish want to see you succeed, yet may be scared of how it will play out.  Your parents for example may be afraid for you to not achieve your dreams, and want to protect you.

Dreams are allowed to be big, to be scary even.  The way for you to achieve that dream is to break it down into small goals.  Say for example you have a dram to travel to Ireland and stay in a castle just like “Merida” from the Disney movie “Brave”.  What is something you need to do to get started?  Do you need to learn about Ireland?  Do you need to look on the internet about castles? 

Speaking of a goal, some may see the word dream and goal as the same.  Start to think.  Do you have goals that you want to accomplish?

How many goals can you have you maybe asking?  The sky is the limit!  You can have as many dreams and goals as you wish!  One of the secrets to having them come true is to share them with people.  Never lose sight of the end dream.  And once you reach the end of achieving that dream, continue onto another one!  Always be thinking what’s the next step?  Never give up and keep going!

This is one of my favourite songs about dreaming.  Take a listen and read the words.  So very powerful!!

What are you doing to go forward and dream again?  Tell me below!

 

 

 

17Aug/16

Being Bold In Your Life!

How will you be bold in your life?

They are being bold!  Will you be bold in your life?

Caring adults, this is another message for both you and the tween/teen girl in your life.  Have a discussion about this, and figure out the plan of attack.  This will make sense as you read the blog this week.  This week let’s discuss being bold more intimately.  Being bold is about finding your voice.  Choosing to stand up for you.  Speaking your mind even if you are scared to, yet know it’s the right thing to do.

If you see something happening that isn’t right what do you do?  Do you say nothing?  Do you tell a teacher/trusted adult?  Do you confront them?  Being a Wonder Girl who is bold means either confronting them (only and I repeat ONLY if it’s safe to do so) or telling a trusted adult. 

Being bold also means speaking your truth to adults.  For example your teacher maybe asking for response from the class about a topic you are discussing.  Raise your hand and give your example/idea.  It can also mean speaking your truth to your parents or other trusted adults when something is wrong.

When you are bold you are also planning out the way you do things.  Being brave remember was more like feel the fear and do it anyway.  Being bold, is knowing what you want to accomplish, and moving ahead and creating steps to make it happen.  So for example, if you want to get your driver’s licence what is the first step you need to do?  Get the learner’s book would be the first step.  Read it, and talk with your caring adult about driving, and even asking questions on driving.  Becoming aware of your parents when driving is another idea, watch how they drive, and make a mental note in your head on what the do, compared to what is in the book.  When you are ready and old enough, go and take the learners test.  I know when I did mine, it took me 2 times to do my test.  In Ontario we were only allowed a certain number of mistakes on the test.  It is a written test we did.

Tell me below how you are going to be bold today!

 

11Aug/16

Confidence Grows Inch by Inch

It's your best pair of heels for sure! Your confidence!

It’s your best pair of heels for sure! Your confidence!

To be confident, you also need to be brave.  Last week I was at eWomenNetwork International business conference and expo.  The theme of the conference was all about being confident.  I did something for the first time in 5 years of being at the conference.  I spoke in front of 900 plus business women and men on the microphone, sharing something personal.  I have been growing my confidence and bravery for many years now.  Was I scared to stand up?  Yes.  Did I do it with my knees shaking and teeth chattering?  Yes.  I took a breath, looked over at a few friends I could see near by and went for it.

Confidence grows inch by inch, just like being brave.  Let’s look at it this way.  Caring adults, grab your tween girl in your life, and take a look at this!

Have you ever wanted to try something new yet were scared?  Maybe your Mum suggested giving a try of a new sport or class after school?  Yet you’re afraid to meet new kids?  Or you’re worried what the other kids will say when you do meet them.

Perhaps though you REALLY want to try the activity.  Being a Wonder Girl is knowing that you’re scared about something and doing it any way.  Growing your confidence and believing in yourself takes work, and practice.  Maybe you’re reading this right now and there’s a test coming up in school.  And maybe it’s a subject you don’t like.  Or it’s a subject that is challenging to you.  Do your best to study for it.  Create a way you can remember stuff easy.

Think back to when you were in grade one or two.  Is there anything you did then that you don’t do now?  Did you stop something that you liked to do because other kids were making fun of you?  Why not doing that something again?  Be brave feel your confidence rise and go for it!

Being brave also means trying something again when you failed at it for the first, second, or even third time.  Just keep trying until you get it completed or right!  Keep going with putting one foot in front of the other.  Every little step towards that something you want gets you closer to it, not further from it.  And doing nothing just gets you nowhere.

Someone told me once that it’s confidence that makes a woman sexy.  This is so true!  Feeling confident enough to walk down the street with our heads high, feeling amazing and confident in our own skin.

Take a look at this video below by Demi Lovato, it’s all about being confident.  What’s wrong with that?  Nothing!!  Tell me, below, how will you grow your own confidence today?