Category Archives: Choice

19Jul/16

Tell Me The Difference…

What's the difference?

What’s the difference?

When you hear the word ‘brave’ what do you think of?  When you hear the word ‘bold’ do you think of something different from ‘brave’?  There is a difference for these two meanings.

Being brave is like the saying ‘feel the fear and do it anyways’.  Take a deep breath and do it.  You want to go and learn to swim?  Then, be brave and go do it.  All you may need is a little push!    For example when I’ve worked with teens, I’ll ask them what is something they are afraid of doing, yet really want too.

The answers I get back are rather interesting.  One time in a school with boys and girls I was asking them this question.  A student responded that he wanted to go and swim with sharks.  Now can he just up and go swim with sharks?  No, he needs a plan.  This is where the difference starts to show between being brave, and being bold.

Being bold has more of a plan in place.  Another difference is that being bold is about doing something that you know is right, yet you may be afraid to do so.  There was a young girl I was coaching in the program for tweens, and she say something happening to her friend that was wrong for example bullying.  She wanted to step in and say something.  She was afraid yet knew it was the right thing to do.  I remember being in university and being marked wrong on a test question.  When I knew the answer was correct.  I went to the professor and asked him to re-look at the question/answer I gave him.

Here’s an idea to consider, make a list of what you want to do that you maybe scared of.  Are these things something you can just go and do?  Be brave?  Or do you need some more planning, and be bold, take small steps.

Do your best to have 5 things you want to do that are brave, and 5 things you want to do that require more planning, and be bold and create them.  What’s the difference for you?

One of my favourite songs is “Brave” by Sarah Bareillis.  Check it out below, and I would love to hear what your list is below in the comments!

 

22Aug/15

Healthy Relationships Are What?

Healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships are very important to everyone I know.  Yes they are important to me too.  As some of you may know I was not in a healthy relationship in university.

Healthy relationships are more than being with your partner (boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife).  Having healthy relationships with your friends and family too.  Know that relationships are built on trust, kindness, and understanding of each other.

Let’s explore this a bit more.  How does a person grow a healthy relationship around the area of  trust.  Trust is earned, not just given.  So this would mean keeping your word, if you say you will show up at 5pm to their house, then do so.  If you do not, your friend will not trust you.  And this also goes the other way, if your friend promises you that they will be there at 5pm to your house and they do not show up, you will start to not trust their word.  Then you can start to build on this, go step by step, keep your word build the trust between you.  And also know that trust in any relationship can take years to grow, yet can be snapped away in seconds!

Kindness, is huge in any relationship.  Being kind to one another is key in any healthy relationship.  Smile at your partner, do something nice for a co-worker, call up a friend to say hi!  then to grow the heathy relationship, be open to receive kindness.  Watch what comes back to you!   And you will never know what will grow and blossom from being kind to others.  You have no idea what the person is going through.  I recently came back from the eWomenNetwork International Conference and one of the speakers Shawn Achor spoke about being happy, and something called the ‘doubler’.  Meaning send someone a letter on how you appreciate them, and then watch what comes back to you from them!

Here is his Ted Talk:

Shawn Achor

The final part of  this idea of having a healthy relationship is understanding each other.  This is possibly the most important one.  We need to understand each other!  Many miss communications come from not fully understanding one another.  Something I teach during workshops for tween and teen girls is the word SALT.  Meaning Stop, Ask, Listen, and Talk.  Want more information on this message me here.

What will you do to create a healthy relationship with those around you.  Not just your intimate partner.

 

 

 

27Jun/15

June review

June! Get outdoors! Get moving!!

It’s the end of June!  Wow!  We are half way through the year!  And this month we have talked about how to get and keep moving in your life.

To review the month of June we discussed how to keep moving in your life is always a good thing.  I suggested the top 10 ways to get moving in your world.  What have you done out of that list?  Maybe you have started to take stand up paddle boarding?  Or you’ve gotten into hiking for the summer?

I also shared about being in Ottawa for the annual telethon for the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario.  My parents are I were on the telethon volunteering our time to answer phones and take donations from callers.  We were there as well for another reason.  I presented a cheque for $3,216 for the Neonate Intensive Care Unit.  Moving forward, even back then, inch by inch I grew strong and big enough to go home.  I even discussed how moving forward towards dreams takes practice, persistence, and never giving up.  June is actually a great time to look at your dreams/goals for the year.  As June is half way through the year.

June most of the time means sunny weather, and that means for many getting outside.  Get moving outside, get out of the gym and get moving outdoors!

I shared what I like to do, and I enjoy being outside, hiking, or walking in the community.  Tomorrow I am actually going hiking to a place that I have only heard about, never been.  Johnston’s Creek near Banff, Alberta! 

So what are doing in June to get moving?  To continue to be active, have fun and enjoy being YOU?

Do something that you enjoy, or stretch outside your comfort zone even.  Attempt a new activity.

Post to us below on how your June was, what was the new thing you are doing?

June is keeping moving, and get moving.

If you want help for you and your daughter, message me!  Let’ get your daughter moving and having fun!!

20Jun/15

Ten Ways to Keep Moving!

Ten top ways to get moving are…

Ten is a magical number for many.  In this blog this week, I wish to gift you 10 ways to keep moving as we move in to the summer months.  Tomorrow is the first day of summer actually!

So to get to our top ten ways to keep moving, or even get moving!  I believe in YOU!

1. figure out what you like to do that gets your body moving and do that!

2. try new things, maybe you want to try baseball or soccer, yes even as an adult.  You are never to old to try new things!

3. do something each day to be active

4. smile when you are doing these activities, especially the new activities.  If you smile, you will enjoy it more, and want to do it more often!

5. be active and get moving or at least 30min each time you do.  This will increase your heart rate, and actually raise your ‘happy energy’ inside you.  You will be able to be more creative and your productivity will increase

6. ten jumping jacks, ten time sets is a great way to get moving, jumping increases your energy

7. something as simple as walking is activity, it get’s your heart pumping, and blood flowing

8. encourage friends to get moving with you, doing activities together can be so much more fun!

9. get outside!  Go for a hike in a park, go for a bike ride, play a sport outdoors.  Make it fun!

And the top ten, final way to get moving is…..

10. play!  As I just said, keep it fun!  Be active with your family and friends!  Make new memories, create new traditions with your friends!

What of this top ten list are you going to do next?  What is one thing activity that you are going to do that is new?  Comment below on what you are going to do that is new!

And if you want some guidance, or help with your daughter on getting moving contact us!

 

26May/15

May Wrap up

Dream big, or dream bigger! Did you dream in May?

May has come to a close!  Wow!  Did you get to dreaming big?  What were your dreams?  Where did you put your vision board?

Remember dreaming is important and needs to be done.  Even those in there 50’s and 60’s and older can dream.  It’s okay to dream.

This month of May, I hope I have inspired you to dream big again.  My business sherpa Colin Sprake from Make Your Mark has a saying of dream big, or dream bigger!  And that is what I want you to do too!

Check out the video I did of my year in review of my own vision board that I did last May/June with Colin and his team.

 

If you want your daughter to dream big this summer, reach out to me.  Would love to help her!  Click here!

09May/15

Inch by inch yes YOU can!

inch by inch you can dream and do it!

Inch by inch I know you can reach goals and dreams.  What is something you wanted to do when younger, yet never did.  Or what was a dream you had when younger?

I’ve been noticing that as kids transition to teens, and then adults that the dreams that we had a child, go away.  A lot of the time how this appears to happen is school and life.  Children are told as they grow that sometimes there dreams are silly, that the will never get to be the NHL hockey star, or the next Katy Perry.  A lot of the time kids are told to get back to reality, and get their heads out of the clouds.  Especially as they grow, and hit high school.  Inch by inch their dreams are broken apart.  Sometimes by those who love them the most.

Speaking of myself, I know when I was a young girl, I wanted to dance on stage doing ballet.  It was a dream I had.  A loved one told me that the dream of dancing on stage can not continue as I did not look like a dancer.

last time dancing ballet on stage

last time dancing ballet on stage

It’s time to awaken your dreams again!  How are you going to inch by inch do that?  Think of something you wanted to do as a child, and write that down on paper.  Then create ways that you can move towards that goal or dream.  Small steps, or as I like to say inch by inch you can get there.

There is a song that always reminds me to dream.  My friend Annie sent me the video and I want to encourage you to continue to dream.  Inch by inch you can dream again!

Would you love to help your daughter awaken her dreams again?  It can be done!  Click here for your tween daughter and click here for your teenage daughter!

11Apr/15

Helping in the Community

Giving back to the community, helping or volunteering is something that I have always enjoyed doing.  And YES!  I know you can too.

Make a list of what you like to do that makes you happy, and then go out and find places in your community that are looking for volunteers for the community.

Example, if you like sports, how can you volunteer and be a happy helper at an event in your community.  I’m thinking about tennis for an idea.  If you play tennis and enjoy it.  What about volunteering at a competition as a ball runner?

Do a search on the internet for your community and volunteer opportunities for you.  There are ways you can look for your own unique categories, even by youth/adult.

Check out this video below of my vlog for the week with other ideas on how you can help in your own community!  Yes you can!  I believe in YOU!

 

06Apr/15

April = How will you help?

How will you help?

How will you help?

So now it is April!  Wow!  Got a question for you, what do you think of when you hear the word ‘help’?  Also…….where did the first three months of the year go?  Have you seen some changes in yourself?  How are you choosing to be brave, to be yourself?  For April we turn and focus on others, how will you help others.

We touch on helping others in our community, and on a global scale.  I will share some places where I have helped in person, here in Calgary, and then getting to stretch.  Thinking on where you can help on a larger scale.

Yes I’m talking about helping on a global level.  You can do it, it may take some imagination.  Helping others on all levels take some thinking outside the box sometimes.

There one word that I’m suggesting that we will dive into more next week, and that is the word happy.

Many kids volunteer and help others all over their community, it can be big or small.  My parents had me volunteering and helping others in many ways even when I was young, still in elementary school.  It felt good to help others.

There are ways people can help that are not money related either.  We’ll discover those ways as well this month.

Help others world wide!

Help others world wide!

 

I know you may be thinking you are small.  Yet everyone helping bit by bit can bring together many small things into one big awesome thing that will help many.

Want to learn how you and your daughter can learn about this topic more?  Click here to find out more.  To start your journey of helping and you live in Calgary check this website out  Volunteer Calgary

29Mar/15

Will the real you please stand up!

Cinderella’s shoe made of glass

So we’ve come to the end of the month again!  Wow!  Where has time gone?

What are you doing different this month to be more you? Let’s review shall we?

Have you tried new things?  Are you different on the weekend than you are during the week?  And remember being you is all about a choice.

I sometimes do not dress the same way that I do on the week day, than on the weekend.  And that is perfectly okay. Being you, is being comfortable in your skin, and letting others see you, the real you.

It’s time to stand up and be seen for who you are.  And your friends/family will support you.  I went to see the new Cinderella movie this past weekend.  There is a scene towards the end of the movie, about Cinderella meeting the Prince after the ball.  She’s worried about meeting him.  As she fears because there is no Fairy God Mother magic that he will not like her the same.  Cinderella chooses to have courage and let’s the Prince see her as she is with no magic.

Cinderella chose stand in her own magic of being herself, being seen.  The Prince of course remembers her and well you know the end of the story “they all lived happily ever after”.

Keep being YOU.  I believe in YOU being the best you in the world.  As there is no one else in the world like you, so celebrate and create magic where ever you go.  Believe in magic!

If you want help with being you, then reach out to me.  Let’s connect, and I know I can help you break free from your own blocks to be the best you in the world!  It’s time to stand up in your own power too just like Cinderella!

 

22Mar/15

Weekend you…

What do you choose on the weekend?

What are you like on the weekend?  Are you different from your Monday to Friday way of being?

I know for me I am sometimes different on the weekend, choosing to stay in my p.j.s sometimes all day.  Or other times I will get up and go out for a walk in the warm weather.

Some times on the weekend I do have to go out and work with a client.  So then again I have an early start to my day, and I do other business work on the weekend too.  Many times I choose to go grocery shopping on the weekend, or go out to see friends.

What ever you choose to do on the weekend make it a great time.  For many the weekend is a time for reflection, and being with family.

Have a look at this video below, and let’s have a conversation on what we are like on the weekend.

If you want to dive deeper into this choice of being YOU for yourself or your daughter, then reach out to me and let’s connect!  I promise you that things will change.  Click here to send me a message!