Category Archives: Brave

10Sep/16

Dreams are Powerful

Dreams are important!

Dreams are important!

Parents, and caring adults, do you remember dreaming as a child?  Our dreams as a child could be very different from what they are today.  Maybe dreams you had as a child were squashed, or even laughed at by friends, or family.  This blog post is all about dreams, for your daughter, or young girls in you lives.  Be open to this idea again. 

Dreaming is so important to being a Wonder Girl.  As a Wonder Girl dreams are what keep you motivated and moving forward. Many adults forget how to dream.  This is because when those adults were your age other adults told them that those dreams are foolish, and even stupid.  Those people who tell you that the dreams are foolish want to see you succeed, yet may be scared of how it will play out.  Your parents for example may be afraid for you to not achieve your dreams, and want to protect you.

Dreams are allowed to be big, to be scary even.  The way for you to achieve that dream is to break it down into small goals.  Say for example you have a dram to travel to Ireland and stay in a castle just like “Merida” from the Disney movie “Brave”.  What is something you need to do to get started?  Do you need to learn about Ireland?  Do you need to look on the internet about castles? 

Speaking of a goal, some may see the word dream and goal as the same.  Start to think.  Do you have goals that you want to accomplish?

How many goals can you have you maybe asking?  The sky is the limit!  You can have as many dreams and goals as you wish!  One of the secrets to having them come true is to share them with people.  Never lose sight of the end dream.  And once you reach the end of achieving that dream, continue onto another one!  Always be thinking what’s the next step?  Never give up and keep going!

This is one of my favourite songs about dreaming.  Take a listen and read the words.  So very powerful!!

What are you doing to go forward and dream again?  Tell me below!

 

 

 

11Aug/16

Confidence Grows Inch by Inch

It's your best pair of heels for sure! Your confidence!

It’s your best pair of heels for sure! Your confidence!

To be confident, you also need to be brave.  Last week I was at eWomenNetwork International business conference and expo.  The theme of the conference was all about being confident.  I did something for the first time in 5 years of being at the conference.  I spoke in front of 900 plus business women and men on the microphone, sharing something personal.  I have been growing my confidence and bravery for many years now.  Was I scared to stand up?  Yes.  Did I do it with my knees shaking and teeth chattering?  Yes.  I took a breath, looked over at a few friends I could see near by and went for it.

Confidence grows inch by inch, just like being brave.  Let’s look at it this way.  Caring adults, grab your tween girl in your life, and take a look at this!

Have you ever wanted to try something new yet were scared?  Maybe your Mum suggested giving a try of a new sport or class after school?  Yet you’re afraid to meet new kids?  Or you’re worried what the other kids will say when you do meet them.

Perhaps though you REALLY want to try the activity.  Being a Wonder Girl is knowing that you’re scared about something and doing it any way.  Growing your confidence and believing in yourself takes work, and practice.  Maybe you’re reading this right now and there’s a test coming up in school.  And maybe it’s a subject you don’t like.  Or it’s a subject that is challenging to you.  Do your best to study for it.  Create a way you can remember stuff easy.

Think back to when you were in grade one or two.  Is there anything you did then that you don’t do now?  Did you stop something that you liked to do because other kids were making fun of you?  Why not doing that something again?  Be brave feel your confidence rise and go for it!

Being brave also means trying something again when you failed at it for the first, second, or even third time.  Just keep trying until you get it completed or right!  Keep going with putting one foot in front of the other.  Every little step towards that something you want gets you closer to it, not further from it.  And doing nothing just gets you nowhere.

Someone told me once that it’s confidence that makes a woman sexy.  This is so true!  Feeling confident enough to walk down the street with our heads high, feeling amazing and confident in our own skin.

Take a look at this video below by Demi Lovato, it’s all about being confident.  What’s wrong with that?  Nothing!!  Tell me, below, how will you grow your own confidence today?

19Jul/16

Tell Me The Difference…

What's the difference?

What’s the difference?

When you hear the word ‘brave’ what do you think of?  When you hear the word ‘bold’ do you think of something different from ‘brave’?  There is a difference for these two meanings.

Being brave is like the saying ‘feel the fear and do it anyways’.  Take a deep breath and do it.  You want to go and learn to swim?  Then, be brave and go do it.  All you may need is a little push!    For example when I’ve worked with teens, I’ll ask them what is something they are afraid of doing, yet really want too.

The answers I get back are rather interesting.  One time in a school with boys and girls I was asking them this question.  A student responded that he wanted to go and swim with sharks.  Now can he just up and go swim with sharks?  No, he needs a plan.  This is where the difference starts to show between being brave, and being bold.

Being bold has more of a plan in place.  Another difference is that being bold is about doing something that you know is right, yet you may be afraid to do so.  There was a young girl I was coaching in the program for tweens, and she say something happening to her friend that was wrong for example bullying.  She wanted to step in and say something.  She was afraid yet knew it was the right thing to do.  I remember being in university and being marked wrong on a test question.  When I knew the answer was correct.  I went to the professor and asked him to re-look at the question/answer I gave him.

Here’s an idea to consider, make a list of what you want to do that you maybe scared of.  Are these things something you can just go and do?  Be brave?  Or do you need some more planning, and be bold, take small steps.

Do your best to have 5 things you want to do that are brave, and 5 things you want to do that require more planning, and be bold and create them.  What’s the difference for you?

One of my favourite songs is “Brave” by Sarah Bareillis.  Check it out below, and I would love to hear what your list is below in the comments!

 

22Aug/15

Healthy Relationships Are What?

Healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships are very important to everyone I know.  Yes they are important to me too.  As some of you may know I was not in a healthy relationship in university.

Healthy relationships are more than being with your partner (boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife).  Having healthy relationships with your friends and family too.  Know that relationships are built on trust, kindness, and understanding of each other.

Let’s explore this a bit more.  How does a person grow a healthy relationship around the area of  trust.  Trust is earned, not just given.  So this would mean keeping your word, if you say you will show up at 5pm to their house, then do so.  If you do not, your friend will not trust you.  And this also goes the other way, if your friend promises you that they will be there at 5pm to your house and they do not show up, you will start to not trust their word.  Then you can start to build on this, go step by step, keep your word build the trust between you.  And also know that trust in any relationship can take years to grow, yet can be snapped away in seconds!

Kindness, is huge in any relationship.  Being kind to one another is key in any healthy relationship.  Smile at your partner, do something nice for a co-worker, call up a friend to say hi!  then to grow the heathy relationship, be open to receive kindness.  Watch what comes back to you!   And you will never know what will grow and blossom from being kind to others.  You have no idea what the person is going through.  I recently came back from the eWomenNetwork International Conference and one of the speakers Shawn Achor spoke about being happy, and something called the ‘doubler’.  Meaning send someone a letter on how you appreciate them, and then watch what comes back to you from them!

Here is his Ted Talk:

Shawn Achor

The final part of  this idea of having a healthy relationship is understanding each other.  This is possibly the most important one.  We need to understand each other!  Many miss communications come from not fully understanding one another.  Something I teach during workshops for tween and teen girls is the word SALT.  Meaning Stop, Ask, Listen, and Talk.  Want more information on this message me here.

What will you do to create a healthy relationship with those around you.  Not just your intimate partner.

 

 

 

18Jul/15

Music and stress

music and stress, there is a relation

 

Music…..who doesn’t love music?  There are all kinds of music.  Did you know that there can be different emotions when listening to music?

I know for myself when l listen to music I like I am happy, feeling in a good mood, and yes even the occasional spontaneous dance parties happen in my living room.  Or I’ll admit it, in the car safely at a red light!  It’s fun, and the looks I get from people around me in their cars are priceless.  Some laugh, some smile, and some do a little dance along with me.

Music stirs up sadness too.  Sometimes I’ve caught myself crying when listening to a song, especially if it is about missing someone.  I have found myself in tears of sadness.  And that’s okay, sadness is an emotion, and perfectly allowed.

thank you

Being out in nature and hearing the sounds of the earth, the animals is also music, and it’s the purest kind of music that can help de-stress you.  Go for a walk, and listen to what’s around you in nature.  Go and sit on the river bank, and listen.  Can you hear the music?

Nature sounds are very soothing, and help with relaxation, as well as classical music or music like Enya.

There are people too in the world who will help you with your stress and they use sound to help you!  My awesome friend Sharon Carne from Sound Wellness is an expert in this!  I have been helped by her by attending her toning circles on Easter Sunday’s out in Lake Louise.  Sound is a powerful tool to help with stress relief!

Here are just a few photo’s of a toning circle a few years ago!

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What are you going to do today to help reduce your stress, with music or sound?  Contact us for help with your daughter!

04Jul/15

Stress!!

stress! The topic for July!

Stress affects every one differently.  This month we will dive into this world.  Learn some of the common reasons why people have stress, and what are the ways to relax, and lessen your stress.

I know for me, stress in my world can be a scary thing.  I at one point got so worked up, and stressed, that my body decided to land me in the hospital.  I will share that story with you next week.

Stress can happen over time, or all of a sudden.  We will compare the reasons on how this can happen.

Also discussed will be what happens to our bodies when we are under stressful situations.

If you feel that you need help right now please visit this site:

http://calgary.cmha.ca/mental_health/stress/#.VZg4ivlViko

Does stress happen to kids?  Yes it does!  It may not appear as the ways that it does in adults though.  We will discuss this in July as well.  If you need help or ideas for your kids right now, please visit here:

http://calgary.cmha.ca/public_policy/stress-at-school/#.VZg5PflViko

I most likely didn’t use the word stress though, I knew I was very busy, and had a lot on my plate.  As well as in elementary school the issues of being severely bullied and teased played on my emotions and ability to just be myself in the world at my school.

Learn how we here at Inch by Inch Empowerment can help you and your daughter today!  

 

20Jun/15

Ten Ways to Keep Moving!

Ten top ways to get moving are…

Ten is a magical number for many.  In this blog this week, I wish to gift you 10 ways to keep moving as we move in to the summer months.  Tomorrow is the first day of summer actually!

So to get to our top ten ways to keep moving, or even get moving!  I believe in YOU!

1. figure out what you like to do that gets your body moving and do that!

2. try new things, maybe you want to try baseball or soccer, yes even as an adult.  You are never to old to try new things!

3. do something each day to be active

4. smile when you are doing these activities, especially the new activities.  If you smile, you will enjoy it more, and want to do it more often!

5. be active and get moving or at least 30min each time you do.  This will increase your heart rate, and actually raise your ‘happy energy’ inside you.  You will be able to be more creative and your productivity will increase

6. ten jumping jacks, ten time sets is a great way to get moving, jumping increases your energy

7. something as simple as walking is activity, it get’s your heart pumping, and blood flowing

8. encourage friends to get moving with you, doing activities together can be so much more fun!

9. get outside!  Go for a hike in a park, go for a bike ride, play a sport outdoors.  Make it fun!

And the top ten, final way to get moving is…..

10. play!  As I just said, keep it fun!  Be active with your family and friends!  Make new memories, create new traditions with your friends!

What of this top ten list are you going to do next?  What is one thing activity that you are going to do that is new?  Comment below on what you are going to do that is new!

And if you want some guidance, or help with your daughter on getting moving contact us!

 

13Jun/15

Persistence Pays

persistence pays! Keep going no matter what!

Persistence, how does that relate to the topic this month of ‘get moving’?  Well, in one respect it does not.  And yet I believe it does as well.

On June 7, 2015 I had a dream come true.  And it took persistence and continual movement forward for it to come true.  The Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario  (CHEO) had their annual telethon.  And I went back to the hospital to share some hope and inspiration.  As well as gift the hospital Neonate Intensive Care Unit (NICU) $3,216.

persistence pays, giving CHEO $3,216 live on air

persistence pays, giving CHEO $3,216 live on air, CTV Ottawa

The reason why I went back to the hospital to give them money is that I was born 3 months early in 1976, and given 24hrs to live.  With persistence, movement and a team of doctors, nurses and specialists I am here today.

We had the opportunity to return to CHEO and the NICU.  My parents and I met some of the awesome nurses and doctors who now work with the tiny babies and their families at the hospital.  They have the quality of persistence to keep going to find out new ways to help the babies live and thrive.  They have also been developing new technologies to help both baby and Mum bond, and thrive.  One of the newer ideas is something called Kangaroo Care.    This is a technique that was not invented in 1976.

My Dad kept a journal of my time in the NICU.  There were entries of sadness, joy, and stress.  On occasion though there were entries in the journal that made me giggle after I read them.  One of them being that when my parents came to visit me, they noticed that I had little baby doll socks on my tiny hands. Apparently according to the doctors I was moving too much, and was taking my iv and other wires out!  I was had persistence even as a tiny baby to keep going no matter what.  And moving was a part of that!

Persistence to move forward, to keep going.

What will you do to keep moving your energy, your body and persist to overcome challenges?

If you want help to help your daughter find her own inner persistence, and strength to keep going no matter what click here!  And let us know how we here at Inch by Inch Empowerment can help YOU!

Aime Hutton in 1976

Aime Hutton in 1976

09May/15

Inch by inch yes YOU can!

inch by inch you can dream and do it!

Inch by inch I know you can reach goals and dreams.  What is something you wanted to do when younger, yet never did.  Or what was a dream you had when younger?

I’ve been noticing that as kids transition to teens, and then adults that the dreams that we had a child, go away.  A lot of the time how this appears to happen is school and life.  Children are told as they grow that sometimes there dreams are silly, that the will never get to be the NHL hockey star, or the next Katy Perry.  A lot of the time kids are told to get back to reality, and get their heads out of the clouds.  Especially as they grow, and hit high school.  Inch by inch their dreams are broken apart.  Sometimes by those who love them the most.

Speaking of myself, I know when I was a young girl, I wanted to dance on stage doing ballet.  It was a dream I had.  A loved one told me that the dream of dancing on stage can not continue as I did not look like a dancer.

last time dancing ballet on stage

last time dancing ballet on stage

It’s time to awaken your dreams again!  How are you going to inch by inch do that?  Think of something you wanted to do as a child, and write that down on paper.  Then create ways that you can move towards that goal or dream.  Small steps, or as I like to say inch by inch you can get there.

There is a song that always reminds me to dream.  My friend Annie sent me the video and I want to encourage you to continue to dream.  Inch by inch you can dream again!

Would you love to help your daughter awaken her dreams again?  It can be done!  Click here for your tween daughter and click here for your teenage daughter!

06Apr/15

April = How will you help?

How will you help?

How will you help?

So now it is April!  Wow!  Got a question for you, what do you think of when you hear the word ‘help’?  Also…….where did the first three months of the year go?  Have you seen some changes in yourself?  How are you choosing to be brave, to be yourself?  For April we turn and focus on others, how will you help others.

We touch on helping others in our community, and on a global scale.  I will share some places where I have helped in person, here in Calgary, and then getting to stretch.  Thinking on where you can help on a larger scale.

Yes I’m talking about helping on a global level.  You can do it, it may take some imagination.  Helping others on all levels take some thinking outside the box sometimes.

There one word that I’m suggesting that we will dive into more next week, and that is the word happy.

Many kids volunteer and help others all over their community, it can be big or small.  My parents had me volunteering and helping others in many ways even when I was young, still in elementary school.  It felt good to help others.

There are ways people can help that are not money related either.  We’ll discover those ways as well this month.

Help others world wide!

Help others world wide!

 

I know you may be thinking you are small.  Yet everyone helping bit by bit can bring together many small things into one big awesome thing that will help many.

Want to learn how you and your daughter can learn about this topic more?  Click here to find out more.  To start your journey of helping and you live in Calgary check this website out  Volunteer Calgary