Healthy relationships are very important to everyone I know. Yes they are important to me too. As some of you may know I was not in a healthy relationship in university.
Healthy relationships are more than being with your partner (boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife). Having healthy relationships with your friends and family too. Know that relationships are built on trust, kindness, and understanding of each other.
Let’s explore this a bit more. How does a person grow a healthy relationship around the area of trust. Trust is earned, not just given. So this would mean keeping your word, if you say you will show up at 5pm to their house, then do so. If you do not, your friend will not trust you. And this also goes the other way, if your friend promises you that they will be there at 5pm to your house and they do not show up, you will start to not trust their word. Then you can start to build on this, go step by step, keep your word build the trust between you. And also know that trust in any relationship can take years to grow, yet can be snapped away in seconds!
Kindness, is huge in any relationship. Being kind to one another is key in any healthy relationship. Smile at your partner, do something nice for a co-worker, call up a friend to say hi! then to grow the heathy relationship, be open to receive kindness. Watch what comes back to you! And you will never know what will grow and blossom from being kind to others. You have no idea what the person is going through. I recently came back from the eWomenNetwork International Conference and one of the speakers Shawn Achor spoke about being happy, and something called the ‘doubler’. Meaning send someone a letter on how you appreciate them, and then watch what comes back to you from them!
Here is his Ted Talk:
The final part of this idea of having a healthy relationship is understanding each other. This is possibly the most important one. We need to understand each other! Many miss communications come from not fully understanding one another. Something I teach during workshops for tween and teen girls is the word SALT. Meaning Stop, Ask, Listen, and Talk. Want more information on this message me here.
What will you do to create a healthy relationship with those around you. Not just your intimate partner.